Previously, I posted an article about other people’s perception when it comes to children with disabilities. Not only how some people tend to put their foot in their mouth, but also why they believe these children have differences, and where they think blame should be placed. In response to my blog posting, I received some wonderful comments from parents just like me.
One such comment reminded me of the internal struggles I faced on the topic of religion. Like myself, I’m sure many of you have been approached about the power of healing, and that somebody was praying for your child to be “cured.” If you’ve ever read any portion of the Bible, you’ve probably seen many verses referring to the blind being healed, or somebody receiving the gift of sight. These verses are easy to find, and often easy to quote.
Due to the repetition of such religious stories and beliefs, it is not surprising that many of us have been approached about prayers for healing. Aside from religion, I’ve also heard countless times that “technology is always advancing,” and “you never know, they may find a cure,” and “he likely won’t be blind forever with all the scientific breakthroughs.” Every time there is new information in relation to any eye condition, I am informed by somebody that the day is near when Eddie will be “cured” of his blindness.
My responses mirror the comments made on my previous posting. Upon being approached about praying for healing this mother said, “If I had that mindset that something was “wrong” with him, I would see him that way. I had to love him the way he was.” Another parent stated, “I feel God was giving me a blessing – helping me on a path with a purpose and rewards not everyone is privileged to receive.” Finally, another woman said, “All children are miracles of varying abilities, as are their parents.”
The point is, we can’t spend every day praying for miracles and healing and still accept the children we are raising. I know that prayers are a gift. I am grateful for every prayer spoken in Eddie’s name. Prayers and hope give our loved ones something to do for us, when most of our road is travelled alone. They often can’t assist us with the daily struggles and fears, so they offer their hopes and dreams instead.
I certainly am not asking for my friends and family to stop praying for Eddie, myself, his dad, and his sisters. I simply suggest you pray for his continuing growth and development. You pray for us to be strong parents with a keen understanding of his needs. Most of all, pray for Eddie to be the happiest little blind kid anybody has ever seen.